You certainly must see your share of stripped threads , duct tape, cracked castings, lost feet etc.etc. Is there not also a contingent of those that make destroying equipment , a misplaced mark of professionalism? A lot of stuff got destroyed in the 60's and 70's and 80's due to a combination of rebelliousness and klutziness , not necessarily , equipmment failure.
Actually, that is my point. I use fairly heavy duty stands and I make sure they are well maintained. No stripped threads, gaffer's tape, etc. All the gear gets inspected before it goes out and if there is an issue, it gets fixed or it is set aside until it can be. My goal is to provide gear in the condition I would like to see it in if I were the artist.
For whatever reason I have started off with 900 series Pearl stands which are heavy duty and easily functional. I use DW pedals and either Pearl or the heaviest DW snare stands. In my mind the DW stands are actually a little over engineered, but the baskets open up wide enough to accommodate 14" wood hoop snares as well as my 15" snare should anyone want to use it.
As to that being a misplaced sense of professionalism; that is probably true. I had a guy the other day that wanted to use his own cymbals and snare drum on a festival show. No big deal and that is fairly common. Since the turnover between acts was under ten minutes, I was helping him get set up. I was shocked when I started pulling out his cymbals. They were fairly cheap, student model cymbals in the most horrid condition. All of them were cracked (including the hi-hats), all of them were covered in green tarnish from sweat stains and they had that smell... (as a side note, "that smell" is reason enough for me to clean cymbals regardless of how one feels about patina Cool Dude) Suffice it to say that I was just fine with him using his cymbals after watching him play. Not much technique but he certainly hit hard...and fast.
I actually had a singer come up to me after their set the other day and say that normally he knocks the drum kit over at the end of the last song but since my rental kit was so nice he decided not to. I was at a bit of a loss as to what to say to that other than "thank you for not trashing my kit." Certainly I thought of a lot of other things I could have said.