Gary,

I appreciate the fact that you are giving the guy the benefit of the doubt. I think that is a common courtesy we should all express. Certainly we would all like that courtesy extended to us if the situation were reversed. If it is not resolved in some reasonable amount of time then making the matter public might help resolve the issue and will either mark the person "outed" as not suitable for transactions or exonerate him/her in the process.

My opinion is that "gifting" should be used as gifting only. Otherwise it is indeed gaming the system. When I have sellers ask me to do that, I politely say no. A business transaction is what it is. If it includes sales tax, so be it. If it includes a third party fee then so be it, or don't use the third party.

well. still no feedback from seller, I was just thinking about this, I said he is not on this forum however for all I know he could be using another user name here and another somewhere else, in any event I contacted the ad min on the other forum too see if any complaints have went on record, I'm waiting to hear back from him. what is most frustrating, is we drummers share a sort of code of ethics and honor among us (or so I thought) I always follow up and anyone who buys an item, send tracking info right away, because I know if the rolls are reversed (as they are now) I would not want to be in that situation.

+1! Agree 100%!

Me too!

Heck the guy could be sick or had an emergency or something.