Without being judgmental here, there is no question that there are incorrect ways of playing which will result in more damage to your instrument. And there are ways of playing, holding sticks, striking cymbals and heads, angle of cymbals and heads, etc. which minimize damage to all of the above.In addition, to play extremely fast you can't help but strike harder, but drummers who have great control can play extremely fast without completely destroying sticks and heads. And if it's volume you're looking for then mic your drums.If you're going through cymbals, heads, and sticks, regularly, like weekly/monthly then maybe there's something you can learn about technique to help.
LOL but you are being judgmental you did not say anything about the players I mentioned you just went all tech on me and there lies the problem there is no right or wrong every one plays different if someone just busts up their stuff each time they play they will get another job... but seems you are missing my point.... styles play a huge role in how one plays and I would much rather play like my heart feels then try and play different because someone tells me i am holding the stick wrong or, have my heads to tight or striking at the wrong angle what utter B.S. guys, gals it is music it comes from your inner self let go of all the mind trash and just play, if you break a few things so what, if you do not break anything ever so what!
This is how we have the Ginger bakers, John Bonhams, Buddy Rich's of the world they were unique because they dared to be themselves.... and we must love what they have done as we still listen to them...