I'd pick up another vintage kit and I'll bet that would ease the pain a bit, the spirit of your old set might manifest itself in them.
You know one thing I was thinking throughout this whole thread was that we never got to hear the other guy's feelings from him. He had them awhile and who knows what attachment he had for them.
To me there's a huge difference in the way drummers play, a huge difference from one cymbal to the next, but drums... not that much. You can tweak drums, change the heads, change the pillow in the kick drum, put some tape on the snare, you can do all kinds of stuff to them so for me I know what you mean about being attached to a particular set but I've yet to see an old set of Ludwigs, Slingerlands or Gretsch drums I couldn't make my own.